I promised myself I would watch more videos that are of the TED Talks variety — storytelling ones which are more biographical in nature, and about small ideas which became big deals for people.
One thing I’ve come to know is this: Seemingly small ideas are usually personal values looking for some way to help you express them more freely, or more completely. Learning to listen to those inner, telling voices may be the best skill we ever cultivate.
Values are creative forces
If we classified video features in the same way as books, the ones I gravitate toward would be tagged as short stories, and as non-fiction. The best ones, are when values come out to play, and people tell us about their aha! moments in learning to listen to them. It is indeed inspiring when real life meets fulfilling results. “Real people” are those we relate to, and see our own possibilities in— if it can happen for them, it can happen for us!
Yes, it certainly can. Therefore, I loved this lecture, featuring “the Swiss Miss” Tina Roth Eisenberg for The Do Lectures. There’s a small bit early on, when she tells how her husband asked her if it was possible to have her sabbatical never end, for that’s when her true calling seemed to be revealing itself with wonderful effects on their whole family.
Usually, my challenge with videos is my impatience, and my inability to sit still enough to see them through without being pulled to something else. I have a bad case of distractionitis. Once a video gets to the 20 minute mark I’ll start fidgeting unless the speaker managed to hook me earlier, and in this one, Eisenberg did so at about the 7:11 mark when she explicitly started to talk about her values, and how they serve her as a parent and as a boss.
Just as they did for Eisenberg, your values will map out the career you’re meant to have, if only you start relying on them, and trust enough to follow their guidance. Learn to listen when your values speak to your spirit. You can still question them, by being suspect of your ideas in the best possible way— wonder how those ideas are trying to give voice to your values, and why.
“We need a gentle revolution”
I may not have transcribed every word, however this is the gist of what Eisenberg said at that 7:11 mark, something we talk about a LOT within Managing with Aloha:
“I do think a lot about, How did I get here? …As a parent, and as an employer as well, you really need to know what you stand for, you need to know your values, and not only know them, you need to be able to articulate them.
7:48…I have the same values at home that I have at work, and I think it’s important that there’s no distinction between them. You need to be truthful [in how you live] you need to be the same person. You need to live your values… especially in the business world, I think we need a gentle revolution… Many people put on a different hat when they go to work, and there’s a lack of human spirit, and lack of using your heart, and leading with the heart.”
This review I offer you, is a [very] partial transcript, for I encourage you to dismiss any case of distractionitis you may have as well, and schedule some time to watch all 32 minutes of the lecture. Eisenberg shares some great quotes in addition to her own message, and I wrote them down for you so you need not keep pausing the video as I did, and because I wanted to connect some MWAisms (the links I have added) creature of habit that I am that way.
Eisenberg surmises that she is an unusual boss, yet you and I both know differently, and that she doesn’t have to be. Alaka‘i Managers are smack dab in the middle of the ‘gentle revolution’ she suggests.
Value Alignment will curate your Core Principles
Eisenberg has 4 core principles that she bases her decisions on at work, as a boss, and at home, as a wife and parent: Create, Play, Trust, and Respect. In the video she talks about each one, and gives examples. A few quotes I captured:
“I have a personal rule, that if I find myself complaining about something I have two options: Do something about it, or let it go.”
“The best way to complain is to make things.”
~ James Murphy
“I think it’s very cool, when people come in with this enthusiasm, this ‘grounded optimism’ as we said, and just trust that we can figure this out, [they can come in from different industries, and challenge convention very successfully…] Never underestimate your side projects, and never be afraid to challenge the status quo.”
“Are you having fun?” Confetti drawers, growth charts, and prop boxes… you are watching the video, right?
“The best ideas come as jokes. Make your thinking as fun as possible.”
~ David Ogilvy
“You have to give your employees a working environment where they feel completely safe, so they can let loose!”
“I care a lot about being a good boss. I think about it all the time. And I care about my team being happy.”
“If I’ve learned one thing, it’s that trust breeds magic.”
“Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it.”
~ Bill Cosby
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.”
~ Anais Nin
“We systematically overestimate the value of access to information, and underestimate the value of access to each other.”
~ Clay Shirky
“When people honor each other, there is a trust established that leads to synergy, interdependence, and deep respect. Both parties make decisions and choices based on what is right, what is right, what is best, and what is valued most highly.”
~ Blaine Lee
“Who you hang out with determines what you dream about and what you collide with. And the collisions and the dreams lead to your changes. And the changes are what you become. Change the outcome by changing your circle.”
~ Seth Godin
Tina Roth Eisenberg concludes;
“I poured my heart into creating a working environment I now call my happy place.”
“I believe in labors of love. I look at my life as the biggest design project I have; I have an intense doer gene. […] I’m not rich, but I have a rich life. A labor of love will always pay off.”
The primary skill of an Alaka‘i Manager is value alignment:
Throughout her lecture, Eisenberg often says, “That’s important to me.” or “That makes me really happy.”- those are statements of someone who needs to live and work with their values, and who is learning to recognize them. I have two follow-up suggestions for you:
- Eisenberg explains what her values are, and in watching this video you can hear the voice of values and spirit talking out loud. After you watch it, think about your own team, and consider how you can use your Daily 5 Minutes practice to listen for their values in voice.
- Second, take note of the project connection, what we have tagged on this site as piloting projects: In detailing her core principles, Eisenberg explains that, “These are things that started as side projects, were never intended as businesses, yet now define my career.”
Relating Reading in the Managing with Aloha Archives
- Values are Shaped by a Heritage of Doing
- Life’s 3 Stops in Motivation: Happiness, Meaning, Service
- Find much more by clicking on the links I have inserted, and on the tag indexes below. Meet more inspirational storytellers at The Do Lectures. They bill themselves as The Encouragement Network.